How to Neighbor

Senior years. I remember when I turned 55, the former senior age. I was looking forward to senior discounts. Now you are considered a senior at 62, or even 65+. However old is the correct age of seniors, I wanted to draw our attention to those that are elderly; the widows, the widowers, and many times vulnerable.

I have two seniors on my street. One is 89 and the other is 90. I have a friend that says her and her husband are the only ones that are not seniors on their street. Whether you have a neighbor up in years living near you or not, everyone knows someone that fits the description of senior.

One of the things that I’ve noticed about the seniors in my life is that they don’t want to be a bother or burden to anyone and at the same time are so very grateful that someone would call them, or visit with them. I can’t tell you the number of seniors I have talked to over the last few years have told me they have no family nearby. They no longer drive and are dependent on others to get them to appointments or take them shopping.

I remember, many years ago, my mother used to visit her mother often and purchasing her groceries for her as she continued to live alone. It was very common for my mom to bring the groceries that grandma had requested, stay and visit with her and see if she needed anything. It was also very common for my mom to get a phone call from grandma, after she returned home, asking her to purchase her some milk. It was what we called “accidentally on purpose.” Grandma was lonely and wanted my mom to return the next day.

One of the best ways I know how to connect with a senior is to initiate a visit or phone call. Find out if they are in need of groceries, transportation or just a visit. If you are wise, you will learn to ask questions about their younger days and hear some great stories. They have had to make so many adaptations over the years as their world keeps changing. Not only changes in society, but many have outlived all their friends leaving them alone with no one to share things they have in common.

How to Neighbor Seniors

1. Make a regular appointment on your calendar to call or visit with a senior you know. They will look forward to it and you will not forget in your business that your senior neighbor needs to hear from you.
2. Find something that you both can enjoy together. Maybe it’s gardening, baking or art.
3. Make sure your senior neighbor has your phone number. They may not be able to reach their loved ones in an emergency and need a backup for help.
4. Learn your senior neighbors’ habits. Look for signs of change. Has their speech changed? Are they maintaining their home, yard and self-care?