How to Neighbor

“Neighboring by text.” Doesn’t sound very relational. True. On its own, texting can leave a big gap in community… unless. Unless there are already relationships built—enough for everyone on your street to have each other’s phone number.

This was the case on our street. It was almost a given: if you lived here, you shared your number with everyone else. It’s just one of the ways we neighbor.

It could be an invite to a BBQ or an announcement of a birthday. Sometimes it’s a text that says, “We’re going to the beach for the weekend. Could you keep an eye on our house while we’re away?” But sometimes neighboring by text just means comparing water pressure.

Today was one of those days. The first text went out: “Is anyone having problems with their water pressure?” Soon there were comparisons of water pressure, some neighbors called the county to report what was happening, and then there was the neighbor with knowledge and past experience on how to solve the problem.

A shared problem brought the neighbors together, each doing their part to find a solution. In the end, not only was the issue resolved, but we also learned a little more about one another.

How to Neighbor through Group Texting

1. Get permission and organize. Propose your group text idea to your neighbors and make sure everyone agrees to participate. Enter each number into your contacts with the neighbor’s name so you can clearly see who is saying what in each message.
2. Keep it positive. If there’s a personal concern, address it privately with the neighbor. Gossiping through a group text—or any kind of text—is not neighborly.
3. Use it to bless your neighbors. Share encouragement when you see a neighbor do something positive. Praise moms for raising their kids well, point out a beautifully maintained yard, or let people know when you have food, tools, or skills to offer. Use the group text as a way to build connection and community.