How to Neighbor

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 reminds us that companionship enriches and sustains us—even in difficulty, others lift us up when we fall. This principle recurs throughout Scripture, especially in the New Testament, where the Greek word “allelon” (“one another”) appears about 100 times to emphasize the importance of mutual care, support, and accountability. This should tell us clearly that we were created for relationships.

God designed humans to thrive in relationships—with Him and with each other. The “one another” commands in the New Testament, such as “love one another,” “serve one another,” and “encourage one another,” are not optional extras; they are central to our faith and purpose. True Christian living happens in the context of authentic community, where believers grow, serve, and heal together.

While relationships can bring pain and disappointment, they also carry the possibility for deep joy, healing, and belonging. Choosing isolation might seem safer after being hurt, but it often leads to loneliness and unmet needs. Self-sufficiency can leave us wanting because interdependency is woven into our very design.

Every person’s God-given purpose is best realized within community. The New Testament’s repeated emphasis on “one another” points to a life of connection, service, support, and mutual growth. Re-engaging with others, even after experiencing hurt, is how we reflect the gospel and God’s design for our lives.

Consider how embracing community—despite its challenges—can open doors to the joy, healing, and belonging that God intends for you. Christian life thrives not in self-sufficiency, but in mutual dependence and love.

Adding “One Another” to Daily Living

1. Make a phone call to check on someone else. Change your focus on others and consider that someone is in need of a call.
2. Go outside. Take a walk until you see someone else. Smile and say “Hello”. That may be the first time someone has ever smiled or greeted them that day.
3. Attend a small group in either a Bible study, or small group in a home through a church. Building relationships that are centered around God’s truth is better than building relationships with people that will just say what you want to hear and let you continue in your isolation.